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What advice would you give to someone looking to quit porn? Well, I gave some advice a little earlier about quitting alcohol, you know, and I would say it isn’t that you’re trying to quit porn. It’s not the right way to think about it. The right way to think about it is that you’re trying to figure out how to have a better life. And so you have to figure out, well, I would say do the future authoring program and keep your porn addiction in mind and think. So in the first part of the future authoring program, it asks you a bunch of questions about what your life could be like in three to five years if you took care of yourself like you were someone that you cared for. And then it asks you questions about your friends and your family and your career and your time outside of work and your health and, you know, the important dimensions of life. And it asks you to spend 20 minutes writing about how good your life could be in three to five years if you got your act together and did what was good for you. And then it asks you to write about the hell you could be in if you didn’t. And so I would say you really need to do that because porn isn’t the issue. The issue is that you’re not living your life the way you want to. So you need a vision of life that’s more compelling than the porn. And you need a counter vision too that frightens you, you know, because otherwise porn is obviously extraordinarily gratifying in the short term, but you seem to be suffering from the medium to long term consequences of its use. And so you need a story that you can tell yourself that’s really deeply thought through about why this is not appropriate for you. What’s, what it’s, how it’s hurting you and how it’s minimizing you and perhaps making you embarrassed and ashamed and more socially isolated and all of that. So I would say think about it as cleaning up your psyche and your behavior rather than merely start stopping, stopping porn. You also might want to write down and you could do this in the negative vision part of the Future Authoring Program. You got to write down everything bad that you think porn is doing to you because obviously you have some suspicions that this is not good for you, right? That it’s that it’s actually harming you in some important way. And so you need to be fully cognizant of what those ways are and then take them seriously and decide if that’s the pathway through life on which you wish to travel. And so, and then I would also say good luck to you. You know, it’s it’s a very good idea to identify one of your weaknesses and work on it. You can you can strengthen yourself substantially by doing that. You.