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The primary obligation of a parent is to serve as a proxy for the social and the natural world But let’s say the social world. Why? Well, because you want to train your child to be not only acceptable socially but highly desirable socially And the reason for that is that by the time they’re about three three to four is the transition period They’re going to be spending more time being socialized by their peers than by you And that will increasingly be the case as they develop and if you haven’t made them encourage them through judicious attention To be socially desirable. They’re going to be rejected by their peers and then they fall farther and farther behind on the developmental trajectory So that’s partly how you help them with their identity