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Everyone knows of unpopular children who don’t know how to play they can’t negotiate an identity That’s pleasing and acceptable to others and desirable to others So they get invited to the game and then they’re just sad and miserable and alienated Little people and they often never catch up if you get knocked out of the play game by the time you’re four It’s pretty much a permanent failure because it’s all the other kids who are playing Optimally with each other are starting to expand the sophistication with which where they can play and because you have no friends you’re left behind It’s not something your parents can can provide a substitute for it has to be done with peers and so you have to negotiate you have to negotiate a Desirable identity in order to join the game