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Weird thing happened about two weeks ago. I was on Instagram suddenly I’m popped this picture and It was you with a friend of mine Cristiano Ronaldo The the football genius greatest player to ever play the game as far as I’m concerned and you’d be to see it just privately and he was saying how great it was that he’d met you and you’d gone there and All hell broke loose. He was bombarded with people saying this is outrageous legend over Legacy finished none of which would have bothered him because he heard all this kind of thing before but the venom of it was from Certain quarters was so pathetic. It seemed to me. So first of all What were you doing with Cristiano? Why were you why were you there? Well, he invited me to come and see him and he had had some a Trouble in his life a few months ago and a friend of his sent him some of my videos and he said he had watched Those and then he read my book One of my books and found them very helpful and he wanted to talk So I went out to his house and we talked for about two hours And he showed me all his equipment for keeping himself in tip-top condition We talked a bit about his companies and but mostly we talked about What he wanted in the future and some of the obstacles that he’s facing while pursuing that and so we had a strategic Conversation I would say for for about on those topics for about 90 minutes Were you in a way were you the Ted Lasso figure in his life? Well, that’s what it felt like he didn’t realize he was missing Yeah Well, I think maybe he didn’t realize that he was missing it because he seemed to have found it to some degree in those lectures and so and I was I I always like to hear not only what people are up to but what they want and I One of the things I loved about my clinical practice, which was very much predicated on this like well, you’re miserable let’s say and not to say that he was because he has a good life in many ways, but If you could envision a path forward out of your misery, let’s say to somewhere better What would that look like and it’s not a question people ask themselves with enough depth and then Having developed that vision What are the strategies that might be put in place to make that more likely and again not in a manipulative way? But if you had to conduct yourself in the proper manner to bring about this desirable end or at least to move towards it How would you how would you organize your behavior when someone like Chris Bates? When someone like Christiana who you know, we know what the personal problem was He’d lost a baby and his partner was incredibly sad for him and professionally After that a lot of turmoil as to whether he was gonna stay at his club and so on and so on It seemed to me talking to him in the last couple of days after he saw you. He’s in a much better place actually That’s what happens when you hang out Like yes, but really interesting to me that so you got and you and he both got criticized For just seeing each other But actually it was clearly very helpful to well, I hope so that would be lovely if it was true It’s a weird position isn’t it? There’s you dr. Jordan Peterson this guy that comes out of Canada lecturing students And then you’re at the home of the greatest football player of all time and you’ll genuinely helping him I mean Ronaldo is known as one of those mentally strong athletes has ever been right not just physically but mentally strong and yet He needed someone like you to help him. I find that really fascinating Well, I don’t know if he needed me because he’s a pretty competent guy But but you know you can always and this is something that very competent people do you can always Improve on the edge, you know, and so his life is very well put together and he had some trouble But people do but we talked a lot about what he wanted How he wanted his career to end in in the most graceful possible manner and how that might be optimized And so I hope you told him to sign for Arsenal in the January transfer window. Did you do no, I didn’t I don’t give I try not to give people advice I’m curious on that because he’s obviously reaching not the end of his career by any means He’s still a world-class player and he’s incredibly fit so could play for another three four years, perhaps But what is an end game for someone who’s achieved everything in the game? Yeah. Well, that’s a good question It’s hard for people who who have had a stellar career Especially one that’s to some degree predicated on youth to figure out what to do with the rest of their life now He’s well set up because he’s a very canny Businessman and he has a young family and he has lots of friends and as far as I could tell on that front He’s situated himself extremely intelligently. So I think it looks to me like the transition for him is going to be quite smooth so but that’s a testament to his wisdom because he made sure that his life was Was was founded on more than one dimension of attainment and that was very wise And does it make you feel does it make you feel good that even people like him? confine great solace from watching your lectures Well, all that makes me feel good. I mean I do think that This is part of the reason I keep going on these lecture tours is that seems to be doing people good So let me ask you about Kids What you done by kids? I mean young adults really and then into their 20s trying to form their way through life One of my favorite movie clips is Rocky Balboa It’s probably the non intellectual version of Jordan Peterson in many ways because he said this to his son He was getting a bit spoiled and entitled and moaning about being rocky Somersault and he says this to him Let me tell you something you already know The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are It will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it you me or nobody He’s gonna hit as hard as life, but it ain’t about how hard you hit It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward how much you could take and keep moving forward That’s how when it is done Now if you know what you’re worth that go out and get what you’re worth But you got to be willing to take the hits and not pointing fingers say you ain’t where you want to be because of him Or her or anybody Cowards do that and that ain’t you you’re better than that. I Love that speech. Yeah, good. What do you think of it? Well that ethos was what lifted up Sylvester Stallone to start him very rapidly with his first movie. And what do I think about that? I think that young people are literally dying for that message. I really and I mean literally they’re so demoralized It’s just beyond belief And so one of the things that’s been painful about What I’ve been doing with my wife as we’ve traveled around the world for the last number of years is to see how desperate people are for an encouraging word